I have a few questions on how to best behave to be as welcoming and inclusive as possible without sounding bad. I hope you guys don’t hate me.

I’m just a straight male. Are my pronouns he/him? Is that how I should tell people? Do you actually tell them as you meet them ? Do I have to wait for a certain social cue ?

How about online. Should I tell people or have it on my personal profile somewhere?

And about respecting other people’s pronouns. How do i figure them out ? Is it a big faux pas if I don’t before I know them ? Is it a faux pas if I refer to someone I just met and I assumed to be male as he/him?

I’ve never seen anyone referring to anyone irl by non conventional pronouns. Is it an actual thing or is it currently being pushed to make the world a more inclusive place?

I’d love some help with all of this.

  • Bleeping Lobster
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    131 year ago

    I try really hard to be respectful of someones pronoun choice but I will readily admit I find ‘they/them’ requires quite active concentration and thought not to refer to someone as she / he.

    • @[email protected]
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      91 year ago

      Writing interview notes have actually helped a lot for me to use they/them since we have to be gender neutral in our notes. Now it’s not so hard to switch into using it when needed.