• vis4valentine@lemmy.ml
    854·
    2 years ago

    I dont work at weddings, but is a given that the more expensive the wedding is, the shorter the marriage might be.

    A big huge expensive wedding is a outbox stress, a vanity display and usually the bride is one of those who want the dream perfect wedding they wanted since she was a child.

    Then comes the hyper fixation with aesthetics, that might translate into controlling and micro managing everyone on the wedding party and pushing people away for not matching it.

    In the end, nothing about the wedding is about the love, being together, etc. It is just a huge waste of money just for some perfectly curated pictures. The marriage itself is no longer relevant and the couple might not last more than 2 years. Just keep it simple people, or even better, just elope.

    • mortrek@lemmy.mlEnglish
      13·
      2 years ago

      My wife and I had a moderately large wedding, but it was motivated mostly by her parents. My point is that there may be other reasons that it’s a big wedding. We’ve been together 23 years so I think things are going okay.

    • YMS@kbin.social
      111·
      2 years ago

      but is a given that the more expensive the wedding is, the shorter the marriage might be.

      So have a dead cheap wedding and the marriage will last forever?

      • CoachDom@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        3·
        2 years ago

        Its not that - throwing out a wedding party on a cheap, doesn’t really change anything. You and your partner wanting just the two of you and the closest people to be there, and the rest doesn’t really matter - that’s the core and some sort of indications that you are with right person. The more you are wanting/needing to be there for show, the more it says about your relationship in not exactly positive way.

        Don’t get me wrong - if you always pictured yourself getting to the venue on an elephant surrounded by royal guards with fireworks in the background and you can afford it - good on you, go for it.

        But later in life you might realized that the most important thing was not all the extra stuff, but you and your beloved. Nothing can compensate for that.

        Also people taking loans and letting their families sponsor the excessive wedding to me is a bit silly. If you can’t afford it, don’t do it like that. This money can better spent on holidays or as a down payment for your first house. Its just one night ffs 😁

    • redballooon@lemm.ee
      5·
      2 years ago

      I was once invited to such a wedding. A show to remember. Must have easily cost $30000. The marriage didn’t last a year.

  • jecxjo@midwest.socialEnglish
    76·
    2 years ago

    Not a photographer but worked at the restaurant where a wedding party had their rehearsal dinner.

    The groom stood up and gave a toast, all well and good. Not sure if he didnt habe parents or what but the bride’s father talked a moment and gave the groom a few jabs that slowly turned into him almost roasting the guy. Took it that the bride’s father didn’t really like the guy. Groom made a jab back and the father slung it right back at him.

    And that is when the groom goes off and slugs the bride’s father square in the face and down he goes. Groom says a bunch of “fuck you and fuck you” and walks out of the restaurant. We ended up having to walk all these people to their cars because they were afraid the groom might come back and do something (ha like I’m going to protect your great aunt mulva if he comes back with a gun!).

    A couple came into the restaurant a few weeks later, friends of one side of the wedding party. Turns out the groom went back to the hotel, packed up his stuff and left to go back home. Had all the bride’s stuff packed and on a moving truck to her parents place before the weekend was out. Groom just flat out nope’d her.

      • Tikiporch@lemmy.world
        41·
        2 years ago

        I dunno. I can’t ask her now; I’ve already made out with her. Once you make out with a woman, you can’t ask her her name.

      • jecxjo@midwest.socialEnglish
        10·
        2 years ago

        This was the only rehearsal dinner at the restaurant in the 4 years I worked there. Big tourist area, lots of people got married there but never saw something like that.

        Lots of other weird stuff happened at resorts I worked at too. The things the staff sees is crazy sometimes.

    • 𝕽𝖚𝖆𝖎𝖉𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖌𝖍@midwest.social
      2·
      2 years ago

      Maybe he saw something in his experience with the bride to indicate she took after her father. Or maybe they talked on the phone immediately after, and she took her father’s side. That relationship is not going to work, no matter how hard you try.

  • verity_kindle@sh.itjust.works
    231·
    2 years ago

    Themed wedding ceremony. One was lightly medieval themed and one was heavily Civil War, complete with historically accurate costumes. It was important to the bride. The groom didn’t care for it and had a temper, which he couldn’t control, even during the reception. She finally had enough of him about a year later. Last I heard, she upgraded to someone better and got full custody of the kid. Could have saved her a massive investment in handcrafted hoopskirts…

  • Sir_Kevin@discuss.online
    1017·
    2 years ago

    Wow, there is a lot of anti-men talk in that twitter thread. As if female narcissists don’t exist.