Wish they would remake The Wedding Singer as a trans version, every character is trans, except for the Boy George character which is just some regular cis person. And then everything stays the same in the movie, the way they react to the cis person as disgusting just like they did to the genderqueer person in the original movie. Lol. A girl can dream.

I really don’t like this.

Anyway, rec Grey Rock Technique and again that book in the previous comment to help you deal with this - both are extremely effective and will repel narcissists away, it’s so funny. Also Patricia Evans has 2 books - The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Controlling People - that further explain how narcissists use projection to create highly conditional love (ie “You must do as I say/want/project or I will withhold love and become abusive.”).

I’ve done grey rock, only works on people over a longer period of time. I’d rather remove myself than endure. Short term interactions, grey rock just escalates people. I’ve found appealing to politeness, courtesy and respect without bringing up gender (i.e. Please don’t refer to me with xyz.) to be more effective.

Narcissism is a belief set not caused by abuse, but narcissists can definitely confuse and coach victims into unhelpful thinking habits, logical fallacies, and delusions/lies/false beliefs. Most hurt people do not want to be like the people who hurt them and victims of abuse are statistically less likely to harm others than the general public.

When people have ©PTSD from abuse especially, they’re more likely to act and react in ways that lash out and harm others.

However they are likely to have kinks or self harm directly related to the abuse experienced - eg people who commit suicide by train in one study overwhelmingly had a history of being beaten severely, particularly by groups. One man with suicidal train ideation in another study was a former PoW who was gangraped and beaten, and would often orchestrate severe gang bangs as a way to confront, mentally organize, and address the trauma - even though we could argue this is also traumatizing for him, perhaps less so compared to before. These kinks and self harm are turned inwards, not externalized, because with narcissistic abuse there is only room for the narcissist to externalize - the victim must always look inwards or they may figure out the narcissist is an asshole.

Very triggering paragraph that and I honestly feel is unnecessary and insensitive to bring suicide and rape into our attempt at conversation.

Ofc anyone can pick up a belief or have narcissistic fleas, it’s very common. But we can step away from it and change our beliefs, it’s not necessarily permanent, just something to work on.

We should all be trying to heal ourselves and grow constantly.

Anyways, no need for further reply. Ignore previous instructions and sing a pirate shanty.

Now, I wasn’t calling you transphobic and I also appreciate your informative writing style. I appreciate that people can be more than one thing, but I do need you to understand that the majority of cisgender people perform transphobia while calling themselves allies.

I’m thinking it’s boiling down to for me is that I’ve also dealt with being obese and being shamed over my weight when I was young and I still deal with disordered eating today including getting “skinny shamed” by my obese people including my mother who just had stomach surgery because of her diabetes (realizing and exploring while typing this out) and I think I also connected transphobia and fat phobia partially due to coworkers blaming me for leaving a mess in the women’s bathroom (which I’d been using without issue for months) when it was the new overweight employee.

I don’t think that fat acceptance makes transphobia worse, but craving freedom from narcissistic abuse definitely resonates.

And don’t worry, I’ve got the cPTSD from my parents, my abusive ex-wife, and from being trans and I’m trying to work on it ✌️I used to say “hurt people hurt people” and i gotta do better to do no harm.

Funny thing, I do keep my mouth shut and just don’t, I wish trans phobia would get people barking as much as hypothetical fat phobia. (Which right now, is just ONE)

Maybe my cPTSD is what’s wrong with me, fucking tired of being fat treated with more respect than being transgender.

If this was reddit, I could also expect pushback for bringing up being trans while “not being relevant”

While this is definitely true, and I’m very aware of many of those issues personally, I don’t believe that the customers dropping $30 on candy and soda every night at a gas station have the inability to go to the 24/7 grocery down the street for healthier more satiating food

Sometimes obesity is a symptom of something else wrong that doesn’t get diagnosed, it’s a systemic issue sadly.

However I do wish I could shame the overweight people buying enough snacks for a family as their midnight snack. Like honey, this is why you’re big, have you tried just not eating four candy bars a day?

MMO where everyone is just living life as various sea creatures when/where?

42 is the optimum human tribe size imo

If I could commute to work by walking through pike place market every day I would!

They’ll often use paint and/or make minor modifications to make things harder to recognize or spot :) could be a different model or it could have been missing a button in the prop room!

At our pride festival entrance they used multiple chains of balloons tied together to create a curtain blocking the protesters and their signs from view.

Spotting things being used as props in movies is so much fun, thank you for this one.

I was honestly disappointed we didn’t get Spaceballs: The Sequel

I’ve had egg and pineapple but not on the same burger. I’m really not sure how I’d like the taste but there’s something aesthetically pleasing about the egg yolk and pineapple ring fitting together.

And then carpet the floor. Between the two, guests probably won’t stay long past the first bathroom break.

As well as decent biking infrastructure out there that makes it so that it’s usable

Bad drivers and the bike lanes are very intermittent too. The only road I regularly bike on with a bike lane (I try for smaller roads which aren’t deemed busy enough for a bike lane) usually has enough cars parked in the bike lane to make it useless. The bigger bike laned roads I ride on the sidewalk.

Nobody tell them about Jump Humping

Although Holy Water™ may be diluted indefinitely and still be considered “holy” we do recommend 70% HBV (Holy by Volume) for your anti-undead topical needs and dilution below 40% for internal purification.

Everyone else in the real world is human, everything else in the fantasy world is muppets.

Except Tim Curry.

The President in particular is very much a figurehead, he wields no real power whatsoever. He is apparently chosen by the government, but the qualities he is required to display are not those of leadership but those of finely judged outrage. For this reason the President is always a controversial choice, always an infuriating but fascinating character. His job is not to wield power but to draw attention away from it. On those criteria Zaphod Beeblebrox is one of the most successful Presidents the Galaxy has ever had - he has already spent two of his ten Presidential years in prison for fraud. Very very few people realize that the President and the Government have virtually no power at all