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Cake day: June 1st, 2023

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  • I have, though it ended up with that person disappearing and trying to commit suicide. It took me a long time to get over the associated trauma.

    The way I see it now is that love isn’t something that will bind people to you and keep them with you forever. If you love someone, let them go, let them be free. If they still choose to be with you, then they love you too. If not, you couldn’t have held on to that person without causing resentment and pain to both of you.

    I hope some of this helps :)









  • You can get prepackaged meals that you can eat after submerging the packet in hot water for a few minutes. Hot water is easily available in most place, even more so if you carry a flask.

    Protein bars are filling and quite nice to eat. Dried fruits like apricots or dates are also a nice calorie rich option. Bread and jam/pb are the usual travel staples. Milk powder and cornflakes/cereal is also an option, but not one of my favourites.

    You can also carry out forms of bread like pretzels, bagels or focaccia which will last for a few days or even more.

    Don’t forget that experiencing local food is part of any travel experience :) you’re not going to travel to Iceland to just eat in the future. So it might be a good idea to explore local supermarkets for some local fruits, bread, snacks and so on. Hopefully some Icelandic person will chime in with more suggestions.





  • I’m really glad you asked this question. I’m older than you but fits similar description, cishet with some friends and colleagues who are LGBTQ+ , dated a girl once who was bi. I also would stand up for any of my friends if they were treated poorly or unjustly, or if their identities or preferences were badly talked about i.e. my parents had very negative impression of gay people due to prevalence of drug use and STDs in the local scene until I sat down and talked to them.

    Unfortunately I’m also pretty neurodivergent so I don’t understand a lot of stuff about LGBTQ+ because it isn’t structured in a way that I can understand. I wish someone made a programmers guide to LGBTQ+ or something :)

    The upshot is that I struggle with the same dilemma as you do. A while back one of my favourite programs changed their icon to a rainbow one in support of LGBTQ community. I heavily criticized for a) saying that I wish they had told this before hand or given an option to retain the old one because I found the change jarring b) could they be transparent about what they’re doing for LGBTQ+ people in terms of donating money or workplace policy because it felt a little bit like an empty gesture.

    The upshot is that I have no clue how people in this community would view me in the context of how hard it would be for me to interact with them (I already struggle with you’re creepy/emotionless bias when meeting new people, if I’m doing something to offend them on top of that then it’s going to be even more of a struggle).

    The answers here have been really illuminating whr varied. So thank you to all the people who answered as well :)