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Unfortunately, the far-right has been pushing this idea of traditional gender roles a lot lately, so people who follow the media in that space are constantly flooded with conspiracy theories and made up horror stories. It’s just one of the current favored ways to keep them distracted and their anger aimed away from the real problem makers.

Yeah, I think of two sides to labels. One is how you perceive yourself and one is how you communicate who you are to others.

For the internal labels, these are only useful to some people, and can change as often as you want, or you can chose to not use them at all and just be you. You decide. What they are useful for in my experience is self-discovery and helping you to decide how you want to present to others. So use them, or not, try them on for a while and see how it goes, switch them up. Treat them like trying on clothes at home. You can wear which ever ones you want, in whatever combination you want or just go naked. It’s your house/brain.

External labels shouldn’t be assigned and if they are you should ignore them. Don’t let them affect who you are or how you behave or you just end up wearing masks. Now I say that with the caveat that masks are necessary in certain situations for safety or to preserve your job or whatever. But when you’re free to be you in public, ignore those assigned by others. Again, using the clothing metaphor, it’s like someone putting a hat on your head. It’s rude for a stranger to come up to you and do that. Now it may be that hat looks great on you and turns out you wear it the rest of your life. But someone shouldn’t put it on you, they should see that you might like it, hand it to you, and you decide to put it on or not. Same with labels. People can suggest a label, but should not try to assign one to you.

Problem with social labels is that it’s not acceptable to go naked in many social situations. So you have to pick the ones you want or risk being forced to wear them. And in some situations, you will be forced to wear one without your consent. You just have to decide if it’s worth being in that situation or if you should leave. And the other issue is that changing labels confuses people, just like significantly changing your clothing style might if you go from wife-beater and jeans to goth cat girl. So it’s best to pick some base ones and then add on or make small adjustments as you go. There are lots of generalized labels like non-binary or gender-fluid that sound like might be a good starting point for you. Then you can add more specific ones later once you have internally tried them on for a bit or tried them on in safe spaces like with good friends who are open to it. Like starting out with a black tshirt and pants, then adding on a skirt or sweater later, you can add on something like demiboy which is a subset of non-binary and eventually get to more specific labels as you find them useful.

And also, something I always emphasize to people is that gender and sexuality are not directly related and sometimes even romantic interests and sexuality are not necessarily directly related. There may be a correlation for the majority, but it’s not a direct relationship. So choose your sexuality, romantic, and gender labels separately at least the internal ones. Just realize that because language is weird, the most common romantic and sexuality labels are only meaningful when combined with a gender label (e.g. straight, gay, hetero/homosexual, etc), so it’s good to find that first, but not necessary. There are more gender neutral sexuality labels, especially in the ace spectrum, or ones that explicitly specify the target gender rather than specifying the relationship the target gender has to your gender, like gynosexual.

And remember, we all change over time. Be flexible with yourself and don’t worry about what you felt like in the distant past, only today. Gender, sexuality, etc., are much more complex psychologically than simply a single chromosome like many bigots pretend. It’s mostly up to hormones and the way different parts of your body react to those hormones which can change over time from age, environment, diet, etc., not just your genes. Genes just set a starting point, and sometimes those get overridden before birth even. That’s why people with an X chromosome can be born with a vagina and all the other combinations.

Hope that is useful. It’s a deep interest of mine because my own journey has been complex. So I enjoy info-dumping about it. Lol

I also default to they/them. That has been the default for way longer than this “debate” (i.e. stream of hate) has been popular. I’d love to see the people who use “he or she” instead of “they” in normal speech about people whose gender they don’t know. I don’t know anyone outside of old formal papers from the pre-internet era that use that kind of language.

I’m agender by the way, so not only are pronouns sometimes hard to remember because they don’t connect to the way I perceive a person, but i don’t even perceive my own gender except when forced to, so take my comments with that in mind.

Mine has those, but it was a different model that had the hardware required to do WiFi. Likely it’s not included and unless the device was designed to modify, it’s likely that the motherboard doesn’t have a way to add it easily and there won’t be much space to do your own WiFi card and soldering if the board does have the connections and support in the firmware/BIOS. Best bet would be a USB WiFi card.

Yeah, the system was on a single server at first and eventually expanded to either a docker swarm or Kubernetes cluster. So the single server acts as both a docker host and an NFS server.

I’ve had this happen multiple times, so I use this pattern by default. Mostly these are volumes with just config files and other small stuff that it’s OK if it’s duplicated in the docker cache. If it is something like large image caches or videos or other volumes that I know will end up very large then I probably would have started with storage off the server in the beginning. It saves a significant amount of time to not have to reconfigure everything as it expands if I just have a template that I use from the start.

Unlikely at least in the near future. The remnants of Dodd-Frank and anything that Biden did are high on the list for Trump’s chopping block.

I use NFS shares for all of my volumes so they’re more portable for future expansion and easier to back up. It uses additional disk space for the cache of course, but i have plenty.

When I add a second server or add a dedicated storage device as I expand, it has made it easier to move with almost no effort.

I think mailcow only supports Pushover for notifications, but it may have changed.

I mean, is she nice to fans? Probably.

Is she nice to employees? …well…there is evidence not so much, which is where my personal concerns come in, but that’s me.

Is she nice if you know her personally? None of your business unless she chooses to let you know her personally.

Problem is this means that things we were hoping to get like having hormone replacement therapy actually approved by the FDA for use for transgender care will not happen and any enforcement of anti-discrimination or laws against hate speech at the federal level will no longer apply to trans and non-binary people. This will allow, for example, insurance companies to not have to cover transgender care. There is already a huge waiting list for people who are seeking care in the US due to the lack of specialists (myself included), so that list is likely to get longer. And likely any doctors who might have been planning to take up transgender care specialties may have their programs lose their funding. It’s a huge impact to a lot of areas of government and many industries to have the federal government not recognize transgender care as valid and not recognize non-binary people like me as people at all.

Also, I’m fortunate enough to live in a state that is friendly to transgender and non-binary people, but my employer is not based here, so the insurance I have doesn’t have to obey local laws that don’t allow for blanket policies banning coverage of transgender care. So, the federal laws do matter.

From what I’ve gathered, not just prisons. When you legitimize hate, then of course violence increases as it’s now acceptable.

Same thing is happening in many parts of the US as states start revoking ID and birth certificate gender changes, labeling books and other media that even mentions LGBTQ+ people as “sexual content” and banning all “sexual content” from children, etc. And is likely to even seep into more progressive areas if congress passes the promised anti-LGBTQ+ laws they have planned to prevent enforcement of laws against certain types of hate speech and discrimination as they redefine the criteria of protected classes to exclude women, LGBTQ+ people, immigrants, or whatever they can get away with.