This wouldn’t work or make sense for cross posts in communities to have discussions specific to that community.

For example I run the [email protected] community. If a post from there is cross-posted in [email protected] their discussions about the coin would be different (focused around numismatic interests as opposed to cleaning focused discussion). It wouldn’t make sense for the comments to be merged.

I think Lemmy is reddit like, so any server running lemmy will be reddit like.

That’s odd, we use “a wee bit *” in the USA too, not a terribly common colloquialism but still used. On second thought, maybe not lol. I do read a lot, perhaps I picked up my familiarity with the phrase from books.