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  • Lots of people have been talking about products and tools. It’s docker, tailscale, cloudflare proxmox etc. These are important, but will likely come and go on a long enough timescale.

    In terms of actual skills, there’s two that will dramatically decrease your headaches. Documention and backup planning. The problem with developing those skills is, to my knowledge, they’ve only ever been obtained through suffering. Trying to remember how to rebuild something when you built it 6 months ago is futile. Trying to recover borked data is brutal. There’s no fail-safe that you haven’t created, and there’s no history that you haven’t written. Fortunately, these are also the most transferable skills.

    My advice is, jump in. Don’t hesitate. The chops in docker/linux/networking will come with use and familiarity. If it looks cool, do it. Make mistakes. You will rapidly realise what the problems with your set up are. You will gain knowledge in leaps and bounds from breaking a thing vs learning by rote or lesson. Reframe the headaches as a feature, not a bug - they’re highlighting holes in your understanding. They signpost the way to being a better tech, and a more stable production environment.

    The greatest bit about self hosting for me is planning the next great leap forward, making it better, cleaner, more robust. Growing the confidence in your abilities to create a system you can trust. Honing your skills and toolset is the entirety of the excercise, so jump in, and don’t focus on any one thing to master or practice before hand!






  • med@sh.itjust.workstoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlHow do I quit smoking?
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    There is no trick. This will require active repragramming from you for months.

    I couldn’t find a quit method that took the fight out of my addiction. You have to want to quit more than your addiction. That’s nice but doesn’t mean much.

    I found in practice, this equates to action in meeting cravings with determination. Even if you don’t really feel it. You’re used to feeling anxious/angry/sad/sorry for yourself when you can’t have a cigarette. Take back that moment, that feeling. Redefine it. It’s a battle you’re choosing, and the best thing you can do is practice fighting it.

    The plus side is, the battle will change as you fight it. So you won’t get bored!

    The first two weeks are the hardest.

    You already know the first fight, if you’ve ever had to wait for the shops to open to buy some cigarettes or tobacco. You’ve just got to raw dog that. It’s going to suck, but it will at least suck with purpose.

    After about 4 days, I started getting spiky, intense cravings that passed after about 30 mins to an hour. Several times a day.

    By week two, I only struggled when I was around smokers, saw it on tv, read about it, had a drink (it’s still hard).

    There was a resurgence in cravings in month two. I felt I’d earned a puff or two. This is a trap. Notice it, it’s a useful trigger to double down on deciding not to smoke

    I’m now a year in off of vaping and cigarettes. It’s still sometimes hard, but mostly I don’t think about it, except to be glad I don’t need to go for a smoke. I don’t miss things at parties anymore. I don’t miss moments with my daughter. Plane rides are way easier.











  • I think I need this, finally a real use for ‘ai’.

    The amount of how to videos you have to watch through, when all you want is one little piece of info you should be able to search or scan for has been a problem since before the internet figured out how to increase clicks by making a web page in to slides.

    Can you link me a how-to video on how to get startedt and send me a summary from your working setup?