I understand how you feel. The first step to reduce the frustration is to try and give it less importance: as you said yourself, it’s not falling in love, it’s just infatuation. Your brain is confusing attractiveness to another person (physical or romantic) for a deep connection that doesn’t come at first sight (despite what movies and tv would make you believe) but develops in time.

You will be attracted to a lot of people in your life (assuming you’re not aromantic or asexual) and, with time, you’ll realize if you went deeper in many of these situation, the attraction would disappear, because the shallow opinion you have of a person you are not dating is very difficult to get right, and usually filtered positively by your monkey brain that just wants to formicate.

Of course trying and deepening these attractions would help you realizing this, which might not be easy if you have difficult approaching other people, but try and reflect on similar situations in the past and think about them cold-hearted: to how many people are you still infatuated? Don’t you see now the “bad things” that you brain was hiding and that don’t make you two really compatible?

Eventually it just becomes a nuisance. I don’t know if you can change it, but you can accept it and it will bother you less if you understand the mechanism behind it.

Maybe you just feel affection-starved and in these situations it’s easy to attach to ideas of relationships rather than real ones. Nothing weird of course, everybody do it is some way or another. It’s a combination of social brain and (according to your comnents) low self-esteem.

Of course these are my 2 cents according to personal experience, a therapist would you help you more with that.

Willy Wonka … Plus the latest theories that try to connect it to Snowpiercer

Wat?

Not saying any of these would cause WW3, but remeber that, depending on who you ask, WW2 started:

• when Germany and Russia invaded Poland in 1939
• when Germany invaded Checkoslovakia in 1938
• when Japan invaded China in 1937

there is no single point of start for a war, just many actions of variable intensity that escalate

Hdd can live a long and happy life, but absolutely don’t trust a single drive ever, independently of how rugged, old or expensive it is.

My main hard drive lasted 5 years with 1 year of power on hours, working fine and suddenly failed. It was a good fail because I was able to get all the data from it, but it took almost one month for how slow it was.

Always assume your data storage is going to die tomorrow and be ready to replace it.

why did he wait so long?

Copyright laws protect 70 years after the death of the author. If Disney infringed his intellectual property, why should a couple of years matter and his case be dismissed?

I know they are being used to, and are decently good for, extracting a single infornation from a big document (like a datasheet). Considering you can easily confirm the information is correct, it’s quite a nice use case

Take off your tinfoil hat man. The entire us healthcare system is the profitable cancer, not the illnesses

When it comes to sexual attraction, no part of the body is excluded. To most straight males (and gay women I guess) feminine shapes are usually atttactive, that can include boobs, hips, noses, hair, ankles. Are female ankles different from male ankles? Difficilt to tell, but a feminine ankle will be probably attractive to someone attracted to women.

The whole cultural thing is absolutelt present, but not in the fundamental attraction for female (or male) appearance

For example?

Left a management position because of overstress and poor work culture. Before leaving, I recommended a guy for my replacement. Not the most skilled folk, a bit of weird guy, but was very passionate and good to motivate people.

Sometimes later, an ex colleague told me he was saying bad things about me, that I hired a girl just because she was pretty, and such evil things.

I got pissed so I started investigating, noone believes those things because they know me, but they still believe he is good and downplayed my concerns, even the girl confirmed nothing innapropriate ever happened with me (it was actually a joke I said in a completely non serious context that was used maliciously by somebody). My supervisor is “of the old kind”, so he just repeated I was a good guy, I didn’t need to worry and I should just go on, that I will encounter mean people all the time and that I should just “get a beer with him” and all will be good.

I even confronted the guy and he exploded in a fit of rage, saying that he heard those things from the girl, that I was a terribile manager, that people hated me and my organization was terrible.

I understood he was delusional, no one really belived him, so I left him to his delusions and went my merry way. To this day, months later, people still come to me for help with my supposed terrible organization that now crumbled with him.

Not-the-asshole man, you did the right thing altogether. Congrats on your humanity

Pretty sure that quote refers to Prypiat. Chornobyl had around 14k people living at the moment of the evacuation, according to wikipedia

Baby siters sit a single child or siblings at their own home. Once you start bringing other children in your home nothing stops you taking in 20 and doing it so in dangerous conditions

It’s one of the least forgettable movie I’ve seen in a while (it’s a good thing) and the concept is just so good because it’s idiotic but at the same time completely true

As a European, I will try and boycott usa companies as much as possible (very difficult) especially megacompanies like amazom, apple, google and M$. USA is too preponderant in our life, better choose European alternatives

Strange New Worlds you mean?

Fairphone 3+ working really well for 4 yeats, but I feel it might be a little hit and miss, for example another person I know got more issues with fingerprint sensor and if it falls wrongly (like on the buttons, there might be issues you don’t have otherwise

I just got woooshed. My apologies.

I agree, historically they make sense, but times have evolved and I honestlt believe certain things should belong to the past, just like we abandoned 12 base monetary and measurement systems, except for a single place on earth that just ignores what everyone else does and goes their own way.

In a global world, we should unite things instead of dividing for ideological/political reasons. Still, my own is an ideological reason why the imperial system should disappear, but there are pratical issues it causes, espeically when used internationally in industrial and scientific fields, which is very common.

It’s an unambiguos female name in english maybe. OP might be from an english-speaking country, but you really can’t make this sort of assumption on a global website